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In a home that demands total obedience, doing what you are told is not enough. A child who complies but does not look submissive can still be treated as a rebel, because her face and posture are watched for defiance. Control reaches past behaviour to the expression itself.
A woman raised to believe that reputation matters above everything treats her own beating as a private matter between husband and wife. The fear of public shame makes her stay silent. That silence protects the abuser's standing along with her own.
A child who grows up with a weak parent can come to find an overpowering partner attractive. The author says her future husband's authority and dominance were exactly what drew her, and she links this to her father's weak role in the family. The trait that later harms her is first experienced as the thing she lacked.