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Yang Jiang, Qian Zhongshu, and their only child Qian Yuan lived as a tight household through war and political campaigns. Then Qian Yuan died of cancer in March 1997, and Qian Zhongshu died in December 1998 after years in hospital. At ninety-two, Yang Jiang, the last one left, wrote the book as one person remembering the three of them, an account of the family's full span from its formation to its dissolution.
The book narrates the years of hospital visits and deaths as a long dream set on an ancient post road. The narrator walks back and forth to a boat where her husband is held, and her daughter fades away along the way. Displacing the facts into a dream lets the writer show the dread, repetition, and slow separation of a drawn-out dying without reliving the clinical details. Grief is shown as a gradual parting rather than a single event.
As young students abroad in the 1930s, Qian Zhongshu was impractical and kept causing small household mishaps, such as spilling ink on a landlady's tablecloth or breaking things. Each time Yang Jiang answered 'it doesn't matter' and fixed the damage herself. The episode shows the division of labour their long marriage ran on: one partner freed to think and write, the other quietly absorbing practical life.
Through wartime occupation and later political campaigns, the three treat their household as a sealed unit of loyalty, humour, and shared reading. This inner world keeps each member intact while outside institutions turn hostile. The claim is that ordinary intimacy, not heroism or ideology, is what lets people endure decades of upheaval with their dignity and minds whole.