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Sophia's cat Moppy is sullen, refuses affection and kills birds, so she swaps him for a neighbour's sweet, docile cat that purrs and does whatever she wants. She soon finds the tame cat unbearably dull and trades back for Moppy, accepting that the creature she loves is the one that resists her. The episode shows love attaching to a real, difficult other rather than to an agreeable substitute built to please.
Because the adult neither lies nor dramatizes, the child can handle the fact at her own pace instead of absorbing an adult's panic or evasion. The novel treats this matter-of-fact honesty as a form of care.
The loss is carried instead by silences, by routines and by how closely the grandmother and girl hold each other in quarrels and games. The lens: a family's mourning is often visible less in talk about the dead than in how the living rearrange their attention around the gap.
The grandmother, near the end of life, and the six-year-old, near its start, meet as equals. Both are impatient, stubborn and quick to sulk, and together they break adult rules by trespassing, smoking in secret and staging private rituals. Their bond works because neither condescends. Each treats the other's fears, tempers and inventions as real, which the middle generation, occupied with work and grief, cannot do.