The home is treated as a place where the working husband renews himself, so the wife's labour is timed to his arrival. In the final minutes the clutter is cleared, the noisy machines are stopped, the children are washed and quieted, and she freshens her own looks. The point is that he finds peace and order waiting for him, not the work it took to make it.
The wife is told to set her own news and complaints aside because his day was harder and his topics matter more. Even his staying out all night counts as minor next to what he went through at work. One person's stress becomes the measure that cancels the other's claims.
The rules assume the head of the house will always act fairly and truthfully. From that assumption they conclude that the wife has no right to question his actions or judgment. Assumed good character becomes the reason no one is allowed to check it.
Practical care such as a meal ready on time is framed as a message: it shows you have been thinking about him and his needs. Turning chores into signs of love makes skipping them look like not caring.