Constant ugliness dulls our sense of beauty
People who have lived through enough destruction can forget how wonderful a simple thing like a flower is. The love of beauty survives, but it has to be remembered and drawn out again.
Rules can strand a whole household
When women may not work or even leave home without a male relative, losing the one man in the house cuts the whole family off from food and income. A father's arrest, or a mother too depressed to rise, leaves everyone trapped and unable to buy what they need.
Disguise turns a ban into a loophole
If a rule applies to a category of person, you can slip past it by changing which category you appear to be in. Cutting a girl's hair and putting her in a boy's clothes lets her earn money and shop, things she is forbidden to do as a girl.
Hardship makes children into providers
When the adults who normally earn are taken away or broken down, a child can be pushed into carrying the family's survival. A girl of eleven takes over her father's trade and becomes the one who brings home money for her mother and siblings.
Hiding people makes harm private
Painting windows black so no one can see the women inside makes their lives invisible to the outside world. Paired with the belief that what happens in a man's house is his own business, this places whatever goes on at home beyond anyone's reach.