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Activities are sorted by two independent axes, urgency and importance, which yields four quadrants. Effective people shrink crisis work (urgent/important) and cut the urgent-but-unimportant, spending most of their time on the important-but-not-urgent: planning, prevention, relationships and capability-building. Neglecting that quadrant is what produces the crises later.
Everything a person worries about sits inside a Circle of Concern. Only part of it, the Circle of Influence, can actually be affected by their actions. Proactive people put their energy into the Circle of Influence, which makes it expand, while reactive people focus on what they cannot control, which makes their influence shrink as blame and victimhood crowd out action.
Most people listen with the intent to reply, filtering what they hear through their own autobiography: evaluating, advising, probing and interpreting. Empathic listening means reflecting back both the content and the feeling until the other person feels understood. Covey argues this sequence is necessary because people lower their defenses and become open to influence only after they feel understood.