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Self-respect has nothing to do with other people's approval, reputation, or appearances. It is the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life and to admit what one has actually done, and to pay the price for one's choices without self-deception. Without it, a person cannot say no, because they are trapped into living out others' false notions of them.
The point of keeping a private notebook is not an accurate factual record of events. It is a way of recovering how it felt to be oneself at a given moment, so the entries are selective, embellished, and self-centered by design. The value lies in staying on 'nodding terms' with the people we used to be, who otherwise turn up unannounced and accuse us of abandoning them.
In 1967 Haight-Ashbury, Didion found a five-year-old named Susan whose mother had been giving her LSD and peyote for a year. The child sat reading a comic book and said she was in 'High Kindergarten.' Didion used the girl as the starkest evidence that the counterculture's freedom had in practice become the neglect of children.
The Haight's runaways were not political rebels but young people whose parents and society had failed to teach them the rules and shared stories that hold a culture together. Left with no inherited framework, they improvised a vocabulary of slogans and drugs that could not replace what was missing. The resulting 'atomization' is the collapse of transmission between generations, not a new order being built.