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Racism in Brazil is structural: it is built into institutions, the economy, and everyday norms, not only into individual prejudice. Because the structure reproduces inequality by default, personal non-hostility leaves it intact, and only deliberate antiracist action interrupts it. The useful question shifts from 'am I a bad person?' to 'what am I doing to dismantle this?'
White people tend to see themselves as neutral and universal, the 'normal' person, while only others are raced. Naming whiteness as a racial position with its own privileges exposes advantages, such as access, credibility, and safety, that otherwise read as merit or luck. Recognising those privileges is the precondition for using them to redistribute power rather than defending them as earned.
Romantic and aesthetic preferences that feel purely personal are formed within a culture that ranks bodies by race. This helps explain patterns such as Black women being passed over as partners. Examining one's own desires, and the media images that trained them, is part of antiracist practice rather than a private matter beyond critique.