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In 1959 thirteen-year-old Ewa Wydra emigrated with her Jewish family from Kraków to Vancouver. On their first day at a Canadian school, a teacher replaced Ewa and her sister Alina's names with the anglicized 'Eva' and 'Elaine' without asking them. Hoffman describes this as a small, casual act that split her identity, because the new names referred to strangers the girls did not yet recognize as themselves.
In a new language, words at first signify without evoking. 'River' in English is a correct label that carries none of the sensory and emotional aura that 'rzeka' carries in Polish. The immigrant can name the world accurately but cannot feel it through those names, so the world itself seems flattened and remote until the new words gather lived associations.
Hoffman argues that the self is sustained by an internal monologue. When Polish recedes and English has not yet taken root, that nightly inner voice goes silent. The result is a disabling blankness, not a neutral gap: without a language for private thought, the person cannot fully experience or narrate her own life, and personhood is suspended.
Adapting to a new culture means relearning its unspoken codes, not only its vocabulary. These codes include how much emotion to display, how loudly to speak, what counts as politeness or intimacy, and how bodies occupy space. Seen this way, full adaptation happens only when a person can live in the new language emotionally, not just use it. Hoffman reaches this point partly through psychotherapy conducted in English, and she ends by holding both languages and selves in coexistence rather than replacing one with the other.