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At seventeen the narrator boards in Tokyo with the family of Mr. M and befriends their little daughter Asako, a Sacred Heart schoolgirl he associates with sweet-pea flowers. About a decade later he returns and finds her a young university woman, and their meeting is tender but unresolved. He concludes that 'the third time, we should not have met.'
A cherished person survives intact only as long as the remembered image goes untested; meeting them again replaces the image with the diminished present, and the loss cannot be undone. So the fullest fidelity to a bond can be choosing not to see the person again. Longing and meeting are separate things: one can meet once and never again despite yearning, or live a whole life unforgetting without meeting.
Pi judges a good life by the density of modest sensory pleasures it holds: clean paper, a friend's letter, the smell of fresh greens, a child's voice, May's newly washed light. The good life, on this view, is not built from ambition or great events. Joy becomes a practice of noticing, and emotional wealth is available to anyone who pays attention.
In 'The Flute Player' Pi admires the orchestra member who never stands out yet helps create the whole harmony. He prefers that role to the conductor's glory. A meaningful life need not be a leading one: faithfully doing a small part within something larger yields its own contentment, free of the burden and vanity of prominence.