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After a 1994 trip to Florence with her sister sparked an infatuation with Italian, Lahiri studied the language for about twenty years in the US. In 2012, already a Pulitzer-winning English-language novelist, she moved to Rome with her husband and two children. There she read only in Italian and began writing a diary in Italian, which became this book, published in Italian with the English translation done by someone else.
Lahiri compares studying a language from the safety of her native tongue to swimming along a lake's edge, always within reach of the shore. Real fluency, in this view, only begins when you swim into the middle where you cannot touch bottom, risking panic and exhaustion. Immersion is framed as deliberately giving up a safety net that otherwise keeps you permanently at the margins.
Lahiri calls it a wall: however well she speaks Italian, her South Asian face leads Italians to treat her as a foreigner and to praise or address her husband instead, whose Italian is weaker but who looks European. She describes the same exclusion in the US, where her English is native but her name and features mark her as an outsider. Linguistic mastery does not grant belonging when listeners judge by the body before the voice.
Writing in a language she does not fully command exposes Lahiri to constant error and reduces her to a beginner. She argues that this deficiency is generative, because freedom from the expectations of mastery and reputation lets her write more simply and experimentally. Being poor in a language forces a new, stripped-down voice that fluency would have prevented.
Lahiri maps her linguistic identity as a triangle. Bengali is the mother tongue she never fully mastered and could not write in. English is a dominant stepmother tongue imposed by schooling and success. Italian is the only language she chose freely, a third point that belongs to no one's expectations, so she treats language choice as a way to escape the inherited conflict between the first two.