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As a teenager in 1970s Lagos, Sheri Bakare is raped by boys at a party while her friend Enitan watches, unable to stop it. Sheri conceals the pregnancy and ends it with a self-induced abortion that leaves her unable to bear children. That loss limits her later options, and she becomes the kept mistress of a powerful brigadier, showing how one act of violence nobody addressed narrowed a girl's adult life.
The novel argues that learning to stay quiet at home trains people to accept tyranny in public. Women defer to fathers and husbands, and families bury secrets such as a father's hidden son to keep the peace. The same reflex of not making trouble lets citizens tolerate coups and detentions until the state's violence reaches their own house.
Enitan's educated Lagos middle class can treat coups and military rule as background noise. Their money, foreign degrees and connections soften the direct costs. Seen through this lens, political apathy becomes a luxury that lasts only until the regime detains someone the privileged person loves, which forces the choice between comfort and conscience.
Nigerian society rewards women with the approval due a 'good woman' in return for compliance: marrying well, bearing children, obeying in-laws, not speaking out. Because that approval can be withdrawn, it disciplines women more effectively than open force. Enitan's arrest, her break with her husband, and her defiance of family norms all require her to accept losing it.